Posted by Jay Wold on December 23, 2002 at 00:06:53:
In Reply to: Year-End Reflection (Part II) - Looking Ahead posted by Peter Arnold / Canada on December 20, 2002 at 12:38:45:
Thanks Peter, that was more great perspective from someone I admire, and can learn so much from.
I know that I am not much of a goal-setter. I have identified the fact that I am terrified of more failure, and when you are very clear on something and it has a time frame, it is so obvious when "failure" occurs.
I have seen this subject of goals debated many times. The key for me has been to identify where I am really at with some things, and just do something, anything, to move forward at that time--usually something small and short term. Actually, I recently set a small short-term goal and can see now that I will fall short, but I have not stopped because I am getting more done than before, so it is still good. I feel the momentum and confidence and excitement building!
From here, I may decide to take on bigger and longer-term goals. That seems to be where I am headed. So, in the mean time, I continue to have vision, but it is vague and changes regularly. I can commit based on my confidence and trust in myself that I will follow through with my intentions--and this is slowly building.
I have STARTED a similar path in the past, but my EXPECTATIONS were ultimatley overwhelming to me, and failure was too painful so "nothing" was better than that. Now I ACCEPT slow because I BELIEVE in MOMENTUM as long as I PERSIST this time. This is ALL really a SELF ESTEEM issue for me, as experience has proven--what was once NOT GOOD ENOUGH for me, is now the KEYS to my progress!
This is my reality right now. I would love to hear the experiences of others hear, from all "tier levels" as Mike says. Where are you? Where are you going? How are you doing this?
I wish everyone a beautiful holiday!
Jay